The Court’s Viewpoint on Children

When it comes to child custody and children, virtually every Judge has the same mindset.  The children did not ask for the divorce and they are the ones caught in the middle.  Here is what one Judge said and I would say every Judge agrees with the substance of this statement:

“Your children love you both. You’re fighting and arguing, especially in front of them, is not helping them. Each one of you is to blame. They don’t want to hear that daddy has a girlfriend and is screwing around. They don’t want to hear that all mommy wants is money and doesn’t care about you. Both mommy and daddy are someone they love. When you say something about someone they love, you hurt them. I don’t care what he did. I don’t care what she did. They need parents who do not fight in front of them. They need parents who do not state that the other parent is a “so and so”. If you want to fight, go out in the parking lot and do it in private and away from the children. If you want to yell at each other and call each other names, then do that in the parking lot and not in front of the children and not on social media. I don’t care what you do in private. But you are not going to fight in front of these children and you are going to stop the name calling.”

This Judge entered a very strict order that if either parent said anything negative about the other parent, either implied or explicitly on social media (Facebook, Instagram etc.) that he would put that in contempt of court.

The Judge’s statement applies to every divorcing parent. The worst thing you can do is to disparage your spouse, especially in front of your children. This will hurt your child custody case.

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